From Here to Health

My journey back from autoimmune disease

First Soccer Game

So Finn had her first soccer game this morning.  Promise me no judgement for what I am about to say, but….she sucked!  I know that is probably super harsh to say about a 6-year-old, but it’s true.  Don’t get me wrong, she looked cute in her uniform and  I was proud of her regardless, but it would be dishonest to say anything other than…she sucked!  The game as a whole was pretty hard to watch. It was 11-1 when I quit keeping up with the score.  I actually had to disengage by the fourth quarter because I didn’t want to be one of those parents screaming, “Just kick the freakin’ ball!!!”  I think I was judging myself for not being one of those moms who don’t care how their kid performs and just wants them to have fun.  I definitely want her to have fun, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t want her to engage and do her best. And kick the ball.  I REALLY wanted her to kick the ball! Maybe soccer just isn’t her thing?  She’s good at lots of things so maybe it was just odd to see her try something she didn’t have a natural aptitude for?  I’m bringing this up on a “health” blog because I believe that our thoughts about ourselves are powerful and this situation had me judging myself for not being the “perfect” mom.  I didn’t yell at her.  Or shame her.  Or make any negative comment at all.  But I also didn’t gush on and on about how great she was (like I heard some other parents doing) when she honestly wasn’t great.  Was I supposed to?  I did hug and kiss her sweaty little body and ask her if she had fun and she said yes.  So I left it at that.  Until we got home.  Then I told her I would take her to get frozen yogurt after the next game if she kicked the ball 3 times.  Was that wrong? I’m trying to remember that God gave her to me specifically for a reason.  I am the “perfect” mother for her.  When I compare myself to other people (perfect soccer moms in this situation, but I can find someone to judge myself against for any situation), it never works out in my favor.  There is always someone seemingly doing better than me.  Looking better than me.  Performing better than me.  Achieving more than me.  I always feel better when I’m not comparing myself to others, but living confidently in my own skin.  This is really hard to do on a consistent basis.  It’s one of those things I do for a season and then something comes along to disrupt it.  This seems to be a lesson that I  need to learn over and over again.  One of many:)  And while I would never say it to her now, I hope when she is grown, we can talk and  laugh about the things she sucked at because she is so confident in her skin that those things will just roll of her back.

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American Girl Doll Swimming Slumber Party

Finn on her throne

Finn on her throne waiting for the party to start

Is that a mouthful, or what!  But that is the type of party Finn (my daughter) wanted for her 6th birthday.  I was a little nervous, considering I had been keeping 2 kids for friends (plus my 3, of course) of mine for the 3 days prior, but the party went off without a hitch.  Yay!!  The girls were dropped off about 5:00 on Friday night and they played dress up while I made dinner.

First round of dress up

First round of dress up

We had a make your own nachos bar with chicken, organic beef, organic corn chips and all the fixins.  Totally gluten-free, but not exactly paleo.  That was kind of the theme for the food…ALWAYS gluten-free, mostly dairy free, and as little sugar as I could get by with without having a riot on my hands.  After dinner, we did the cake and ice cream thing.  My girl loves all things pink so I made a gluten-free, dairy free strawberry cake that turned out really good!

Can I eat this whole thing myself?

Can I eat this whole thing myself?

We then did a few crafts, the best one being painting t-shirts my mom made for all the girls’ American Girl Dolls.  The girls were so well-behaved and really took their painting seriously.

American Girl T-Shirts

American Girl T-Shirts

After craft time, we all got in our jammies with the intent of watching the American Girl Doll movie, McKenna, but about  20 minutes in, the sugar from the ice cream and cake must have kicked in because they totally lost interest in the movie and went back to dress up and dancing.

All my fancy girls

All my fancy girls

All the girls and all the dolls

All the girls and all the dolls

By about 11:25, I had them all in bed.  I had 2 girls that had never spent the night away from home before so I had to do a little bit of tickling and hair stroking, but by midnight I had them all sleeping soundly.  We got up the next morning and made eggs, sausage, gluten free pancakes and fruit.  We then hit the pool!

Enjoying our Paleo picnic

Enjoying our (mostly) Paleo picnic

We swam for hours. I had the best time with these sweet girls!  No judgement, just total fun.  I got my workout in pulling them around in the pool and dancing on the deck for hours.  We downloaded the soundtrack to Teen Beach Movie and it was a giant hit!  My last 2 girls left at 5:00 and good thing because about 6:00 I finally hit the wall!  Complete exhaustion! But it was totally worth it.  I couldn’t help reminiscing about all the slumber parties my mom hosted for me growing up.  My house was always the slumber party house.  My first one was my 7th birthday and we still talk about it to this day.  My mom let us watch Footloose!  Seriously?  Oh, well…I don’t think it ruined any of us;)  It’s funny how things come full circle.  Sometimes it takes that for me to appreciate all the things my mom did (and still does) for me.  She turned my house into a virtual palace for my daughter’s party.  It was a magical 24 hours that none of the girls will ever forget.  I think we’ll do it again. Next year:)

My Mini Me and her Mini Me

My Mini Me and her Mini Me

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